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Posted by Kim on September 7, 2014
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Posted by Kim on July 25, 2014
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Posted by Kim on July 17, 2014
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Posted by Kim on June 16, 2014
I am a returned Peace Corps Volunteer, something that still shapes my thoughts and attitudes about a lot of different things in my life.
The quickest way to make me judge you is to say something along the lines of “I almost did Peace Corps.”
You either do something or you don’t.
I’ve still been out of practice with pole, due to mostly to my mysterious toe injury and also some other goals that need to come first. I’ve noticed that I’ve started thinking about pole in past tense, and that needs to stop. I don’t want to almost have been a pole dancer.
I’m working through the other goals that need to come first (things like graduating, finding a new place to live, and finding ways to increase my income so that I can afford more pole…) But I’ve noticed I’ve slipped on a lot of maintenance things that have nothing to do with my toe. My diet is sloppy. My sleep habits are sloppy. Pole requires discipline; but it’s hard to be disciplined when you were a dancer instead of when you are a dancer.
Enough with words like “almost” and “have been.” Athleticism requires a full complement of physical and mental training, and much of that can be done with an injury. I’ve worked hard to build up disciplined habits of mental visualization, sleep, and diet. Time to go back to those basics until I can start actually training on the pole again. I am a pole dancer. Who are you?
Posted by Kim on June 14, 2014
The mountain doesn’t care that you have a full time job and go to school full time. There’s only one summit – and the fitness demands to reach it are the same regardless of our time to train, fitness level arriving, age, etc. – Mountain Athlete Website
I love this quote, because it so succinctly sums up the importance of disciplined training for your sport. Pole doesn’t involve exposure to the elements or the intense duration of mountain sports, but it does involve supporting your body weight at the limits of your flexibility, sometimes upside down. The point is the same. Take the time to train properly, or else bear the consequences.
What this looks like for pole dancers:
Posted by Kim on June 8, 2014
No matter what sport you choose, your body will become unbalanced if you only train your sport. Pole is no exception. To bring your training to a more elite level, you must learn how to cross train.
Unfortunately, cross training can be confusing. How much should you do? Come to think of it, what should you do?
These answers are going to be different for everyone, so I’ve made a list of questions to consider while you are designing your own crosstraining routine. At the bottom, I’ve linked to some articles that may be helpful for you.
Posted by Kim on April 16, 2014
Now I think I’m finally getting it, so here is my big confession: I fake things all the time.
I’m not ashamed. Faking things, particularly emotions, is a key of good performance. I tend to dance to angry songs; but I’m not really an angry person. It’s a story. I act my part.
Faking things goes way beyond dance though. I fake that I have a plan for my life. I don’t, but I am hopeful that it will be a meaningful and full life.
I fake that I am enough. I never performed in Elevated Art because I thought I was good enough. I just submitted a video and hoped for the best. I tried my hardest, and I still see so many things that could be improved.
No one is ever good enough- the better you get the more critical you become. I overheard Natasha Wang backstage telling someone that she had done the routine several times before and still always had something wrong with it. I assure you that I noticed nothing wrong with her routine. You will never be good enough, whatever that means. Get used to it. Not being good enough is the catalyzing force that makes you work toward bettering yourself. Embrace how much you suck.
But wanting to improve only works if you can also pretend like you are good enough. Otherwise, you become so absorbed in all of your flaws that you aren’t able to gift the world with what you have, what you’ve done, who you are. Own your stage, either in the studio or in your life. Act like you are the shit. Do your best and hope for the best, and force yourself to appreciate how far you’ve come. You have a lot to offer the world. Your job is to not to judge- it’s to give what you have. And to give what you have, you have to fake it. Fake it so well that you almost believe it- that you are enough, that you have something to offer, that your life is going somewhere, that you matter.
In the end, you aren’t really faking it. Nothing you do will be perfect, but if you are doing your best, you will be enough. You do matter.
To read more about emotionality and pole, please click here.
Post edit: I found this a few hours after I posted this blog this morning and it seemed relevant. Enjoy.
Posted by Kim on April 11, 2014
I saw something several weeks ago as I was waiting for a class that made my stomach churn.
It was a girl asking for moves that were clearly out of her skill level, and it was an instructor obliging and (attempting to) teach them.
Teachers, coaches and instructors: Please grow a spine (if you have one already, please disregard. I love you all and you are fantastic.). It is OK to tell students no. It is OK to tell a person that they are not advanced enough yet. It is OK to refuse to teach things that you don’t know how to do.
There is a lot of buzz right now on safety, including this delightful blog on Spinning Love Story and a facebook post about safety from one of my favorite pole bloggers, Aerial Amy. As a dancer, please use common sense, and stay in your own level. Take the time to build up the strength, flexibility, and technique for more advanced moves. Follow the curriculum set by your instructors or studios and be patient.
As for teachers, my expectations are higher. If you are going to teach other people how to do something physical (particularly if it involves moving upside down, extreme flexibility, and all other aspects that make pole difficult and dangerous) you absolutely must be able to recognize the level a student is at and adjust accordingly. If you receive pushback, you must stand your ground and maintain control of the situation. It’s OK to be an asshole when people’s safety is at risk. That’s your job. As a student, I expect you to be in control.
Posted by Kim on April 8, 2014
Spring is here! In the time honored tradition of spring cleaning, here are some ideas to get your pole stuff in order.
If you want to get more extreme, you can start looking at ways to simplify/frugalize (yeah, I just made that word up) other pieces of your life to make more time, energy or cash for pole. Here are some things I’ve done recently. Pick and choose if anything seems relevant to you.
Posted by Kim on April 4, 2014